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5 Things that happen when you’re open and honest

By Lindsay Hindle | Courage , Emotion , Mind

When your partner asks about your day and you’re covered in baby poop (literally) and haven’t eaten anything since 6am, do you tell the truth or just say it was good?

When the waiter at the restaurant delivers a ceasar salad instead of a tossed salad, do you tell truth or just eat the ceasar?

When you’re feeling overwhelmed in your business, do you keep it to yourself or seek out help?

It breaks my heart that so many people have a rough time being open and honest about how they are doing in their business. Imagine all the problems that could be solved when everyone shares knowledge and the honest truth with everyone else?

Now, I’m not talking about sharing your whole life story with the stranger on the plane (‘cause that’s just plain annoying 99% of the time). I’m saying, be honest and open with an accountability partner (like a friend, partner, colleague, or coach), so you can regain control of your own habits so they no longer control you.

Here are 5 things that’ll happen when you’re open and honest:

1. You’ll see something new in yourself.

Often verbalizing something with someone else makes it real for ourselves too. When you open up about your hopes, fears, dreams, and obstacles, you acknowledge their existence and you’re better able to work through them to make them happen (or not happen).

2. You’ll earn accountability.

When you’re honest and share with others, you earn accountability partners — cheerleaders you can rely on to give you a firm kick in the pants, a gentle reminder, a listening ear, or be an emotional rock for your journey. After all, people can better support and lead your cheering section when they better understand you.

3. You’ll receive valuable feedback.

As human beings, we tend to get excited easily…I’ve been known to get a little giddy myself! It’s easy to get tunnel vision, focusing only on the end goal and our perspective on the journey. When you’re open and honest and share your goals and dreams, others may see something that you don’t, and help you stay on the right, or even a more productive path.

4. You’ll feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.

The emotional support that comes from opening up to someone else is incredible. Taking that emotional “weight off your shoulders” is felt physically too and you may find yourself walking taller, feeling more relaxed, and even cracking a little smile!

5. You’ll be a better version of yourself.

All roads lead to this: becoming a better version of yourself. When you’re honest with yourself, you bring your issues and fears to the forefront so they can be addressed and you can move past them. When you’re honest with others, you get a cheerleader in your game of life!

Want a quick way to get honest with yourself so you can move past overwhelm or procrastination? Join me for a Rapid Clarity Breakthrough Session. In 60 minutes you’ll have deep insight into your fear story and an action plan to move past it.

3 Common Prioritizing Mistakes That Kill Genius Juju

By Lindsay Hindle | Focus , Performance , Persistence , Practical Tool , Resilliency

Prioritizing properly is a must to avoid feeling frazzled. Frazzle kills your genius juju and we don’t want that cause the world needs your genius darling.

So I’m continuing my mission this week to help people sort out their priority puzzles. When it comes to doing BIG work in the world, especially if you are just starting out, everything can feel overwhelming. 

Last week I blogged about the importance of having a well prioritized to-do list, one that is free of AVOIDANCE tasks. You know, the filler things you hide behind instead of tackling the BIG important things? If you missed it, catch up here.

Now that we’ve just put some BIG priorities on your list, you’re probably wondering when and how do you get them done? Which one first?

Well, I’d like to share some common mistakes I see people making in the hopes it will help you with that.

Mistake #1 – Plunking without plotting

Commonly, people carve up their day guided by “what” is on their to-do list, but rarely stop to think about how long each item on that list is likely to take. This means you have a “Hope to do” list, but you don’t really know how realistic it is.

Why does this mistake matter? It causes two problems:

  • You make a plan you can’t stick to (ie. your structure breaks down)
  • You give yourself crap for meeting your own unrealistic expectations (ie. your morale breaks down)

Mistake #2 – Overlooking the Learning

Commonly, people don’t give due respect to the learning time of doing something new. You’re shooting yourself in the foot if you don’t take this into account. Knowing what is totally new on your list (never done before) needs special treatment.

Keep in mind you may have ‘learn-by-doing’ tasks or ‘absorb-first-implement-later’ kind of tasks, either way build in additional time for these things.

Mistake #3 – Skipping the scales

Ok, this analogy may not make sense for everyone, but hopefully you catch on!

When I was a kid I hated practicing piano, most especially scales. I wanted to skip ahead and just play the damn pieces of music. But skipping the scale drills made it harder to play the pieces, so I didn’t do myself any favours.

My point?

There are probably a lot of repetitive tasks that are ‘hands-off’ tasks ONCE you have a system set up for them. But if you don’t take the time to set up the foundation, they always remain ‘hands-on’ tasks and suck up resources that could otherwise be transferred elsewhere.

I’m talking really basic stuff, like do you have a ‘Grab “N Go’ spreadsheet where you keep all the important, most used/accessed URLS of your business so it takes seconds to share them and not minutes of searching and calling up your own sites every time?

Case in point, here is The Bravery Lab link (and by the way have you joined the community yet?). This took me just seconds to grab.

Remember you’re not just expending time resources, you’re expending mental energy (prime focus energy) that is needed elsewhere like learning!

Take the hit in the short-term to set some things up and benefit in the long term.

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Maybe you’re busy or maybe you’re trapped in avoidance

By Lindsay Hindle | Focus , Mind , Performance , Persistence , Practical Tool

Bueller…? Bueller….? Bueller…? You’ve probably heard the legend of the great Mr. Ferris Bueller and his infamous busy day! He had a jam packed schedule of dining-and-dashing, admiring priceless works of art, crashing a parade, and even taking a dip in his neighbour’s pool.

…But was he really busy or trapped in avoidance? The real reason he did all those things was to avoid going to school. Classic case of being trapped in avoidance!

We’ve all been a “Ferris Bueller” procrastinator at some point in our lives. I want to help you recognise your reasons for feeling busy, because that may hold the key to creating the focus you need to move your life and business forward in powerful ways.

Why are you really busy?

Everyone says they’re busy. To improve your focus and productivity, we need to see exactly what you’re doing that keeps you so busy. Get a pen and paper (or coloured sticky notes, or a tablet, or the back of your arm if you prefer) and write down everything that’s on your to-do list each day for the next week.

Look at each item on your list. Why did you write it down? Is it because it’s a necessity (like paying bills on time, taking your kids to school, picking up groceries…etc), or because you’re trying to make yourself busy so you don’t have time for something else on the list?

Now, highlight these tasks you don’t want to do — tasks that you’d much rather sing Twist and Shout at the top of your lungs from a float in the community parade, than actually do!

For each of these tasks, make an action plan to get them done and be accountable to complete them. Do you need someone to give you a swift kick in the butt (figuratively I hope)? Will educating yourself on the subject make you feel more confident? Maybe you need to find a way to block out the world (aka Facebook) so you can hunker down and get ‘er done. Others beat this procrastination by promising themselves a reward when it’s completed (manicure anyone?).

How to make a productive task list

Before adding a task or project to your list, make sure it’s not an avoidance task. Did you add this item because because it’s critical (perhaps from a third party dependency)? Or is it something you’re doing to avoid doing the other tasks?

Take your list and prioritize. If you need, boost your confidence by adding 1 or 2 quick wins (or easy/quick tasks) between larger/scarier tasks you’re trying to avoid. A quick boost of confidence can help give you the strength and motivation to move on to the difficult tasks.

Want more help FOLLOWING THROUGH on the priorities you set? Get THE ULTIMATE FOLLOW-THROUGH CHEATSHEET TO FINISH ANYTHING YOU START. Click here.