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Why You’re At War With Expectations, Part 1

By Lindsay Hindle | Emotion , Focus , Mind , Performance , Perspective Shift

If you’re going to lead your business, career, family, art, health revolution, etc. pretty much anything that means anything to you…

You might find yourself struggling with setting and meeting expectations of yourself and others. 

There are three major things you need to grasp in order to be at peace with expectations:

1. Self understanding of your personality  
2. Setting realistic expectations 
3. Applying the right Self love (I identify 2 types) to the right situation when you see yourself “failing” to meet expectations 

Today I’m sharing a powerful tool you can use to help identify your personality so you get the critical insight to stop blaming, shaming, or any other ‘aming’ that’s going on and start to leverage who you are.

It’s from a personality framework called The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin.

A simple question “How do you respond to expectations” led Gretchen into a path of research, ultimately producing an excellent assessment and book called The Four Tendencies. Very quickly they are:

1. Upholders respond readily to both outer and inner expectations
2. Questioners readily respond to inner expectations only
3. Obligers respond readily to outer expectations (and struggle to meet inner ones)
4. Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike

Using this test with clients has been extremely helpful for me to get an understanding of how best to work with them – you can access the test here and find out which tendency you are!

Knowing your tendency is helpful as you may already be reflecting on how you met your goals this year with the golden question:

Did I accomplish or move the needle on what I most wanted, in a way that felt good? Why or why not?

Once you take the test, I would absolutely love it if you go reply inside The Bravery Lab and let me know which tendency you are and what your thoughts/feelings are about it.
Not part of my online tribe of aspiring leaders, entrepreneurs & creatives? Then by all means come join us here.

Panicked ending or setting up for success?

By Lindsay Hindle | Focus , Mind , Performance

Prepare yourself! I’m going to share something that may shock you. Ready? Here it comes…

It’s almost the end of 2018!

I know right? When I told you that, did you think “Duh, I already knew that Lindsay,” or did you say “Holy pineapple Batman! I have so much to do I need to drop everything and finish my 2018 goals!”

Now, you can choose panic and look for quick wins to accomplish your goals, but that’s not setting yourself up for success longer term.

One of the most common reasons we don’t accomplish our goals is that we haven’t set ourselves up with the right habits to achieve those goals.

Outdated goal-oriented thinking

In school we’re taught how to set goals, but not how to achieve goals (2 very different skill sets). This often forces us into deadly cycle:

  • January: Goals are written down. We’re motivated and full of energy.
  • May: We are making slow progress towards our goals, but not as fast as we planned. We’re mildly optimistic but losing our drive.
  • September: Our goal progress has stalled or been forgotten on a shelf. We feel deflated and give up…until Jan 1 when we make new goals start the cycle again!

How do we avoid this trap? By establishing healthy, sustainable habits that can help us achieve our goals!

Why habits are important

Sarah wants to lose 50 pounds by December 31. Sure she can jump on the latest fad diet where you eat 1 liquified food item for 14 days straight. That might help her reach her goal quickly, but is this sustainable (or healthy) to do long term?

However, if Sarah, focuses on overall healthier eating and exercise habits, it may take a little longer to reach her goal, but she’s less likely to fall back into old habits and put the weight on again.

Like popular diets, quick fixes to reach your goals don’t often create sustainable habits.

This means, if you work your butt off between now and December just so you can say you accomplished your goals, sure you may get them all done, but have you actually created habits that can sustain you long into 2019 and beyond?

Fall is the best time to establish THE RIGHT habits so you can hit the ground running (or maybe jogging to start) in January with your New Year’s resolutions.

But Lindsay, you ask, what exactly are the RIGHT HABITS?

Well, I’m glad you asked because I answer that very question in my new online masterclass:

Master Your Follow Through: The four critical shifts to transform your focus, consistency, and confidence so you can conquer your goals in business & life

And you can sign up to watch it right here!

3 Common Prioritizing Mistakes That Kill Genius Juju

By Lindsay Hindle | Focus , Performance , Persistence , Practical Tool , Resilliency

Prioritizing properly is a must to avoid feeling frazzled. Frazzle kills your genius juju and we don’t want that cause the world needs your genius darling.

So I’m continuing my mission this week to help people sort out their priority puzzles. When it comes to doing BIG work in the world, especially if you are just starting out, everything can feel overwhelming. 

Last week I blogged about the importance of having a well prioritized to-do list, one that is free of AVOIDANCE tasks. You know, the filler things you hide behind instead of tackling the BIG important things? If you missed it, catch up here.

Now that we’ve just put some BIG priorities on your list, you’re probably wondering when and how do you get them done? Which one first?

Well, I’d like to share some common mistakes I see people making in the hopes it will help you with that.

Mistake #1 – Plunking without plotting

Commonly, people carve up their day guided by “what” is on their to-do list, but rarely stop to think about how long each item on that list is likely to take. This means you have a “Hope to do” list, but you don’t really know how realistic it is.

Why does this mistake matter? It causes two problems:

  • You make a plan you can’t stick to (ie. your structure breaks down)
  • You give yourself crap for meeting your own unrealistic expectations (ie. your morale breaks down)

Mistake #2 – Overlooking the Learning

Commonly, people don’t give due respect to the learning time of doing something new. You’re shooting yourself in the foot if you don’t take this into account. Knowing what is totally new on your list (never done before) needs special treatment.

Keep in mind you may have ‘learn-by-doing’ tasks or ‘absorb-first-implement-later’ kind of tasks, either way build in additional time for these things.

Mistake #3 – Skipping the scales

Ok, this analogy may not make sense for everyone, but hopefully you catch on!

When I was a kid I hated practicing piano, most especially scales. I wanted to skip ahead and just play the damn pieces of music. But skipping the scale drills made it harder to play the pieces, so I didn’t do myself any favours.

My point?

There are probably a lot of repetitive tasks that are ‘hands-off’ tasks ONCE you have a system set up for them. But if you don’t take the time to set up the foundation, they always remain ‘hands-on’ tasks and suck up resources that could otherwise be transferred elsewhere.

I’m talking really basic stuff, like do you have a ‘Grab “N Go’ spreadsheet where you keep all the important, most used/accessed URLS of your business so it takes seconds to share them and not minutes of searching and calling up your own sites every time?

Case in point, here is The Bravery Lab link (and by the way have you joined the community yet?). This took me just seconds to grab.

Remember you’re not just expending time resources, you’re expending mental energy (prime focus energy) that is needed elsewhere like learning!

Take the hit in the short-term to set some things up and benefit in the long term.