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The 7 best questions to ask yourself when you’re doubting & looking for confidence

By Lindsay Hindle | Courage , Mind , Performance , Persistence , Perspective Shift

Hey there ambitious you! Has your confidence taken a hit? Cratered even? If you’re taking side-ways glances at other bushy-tailed “high performers” crushing their goals and feeling bummed, you are in the right place.

Maybe your ambitious January plans are teetering on wobbly outcomes. Or your goal dates have been re-dated more times than the latest Bachelor. Or your social media calendars are the only social anything going on in your life anymore.

It’s discouraging at best. Demoralizing at worst. And I’ve totally, totally, been there.

Safe to say it’s VITAL that you double-down on boosting your confidence by all means possible (and I don’t mean via glasses of Bordeaux).

I’ve got the goods on how to address the very foundation your confidence and this perspective shift will last a lifetime.

The Trust That Doesn’t Bend

First things first…confidence is a trust so firm that no amount of obstacles, missteps, or unmet expectations can wipe it out. But how do you build a solid sense of “trust” amidst a case of the self-doubties? (Sorry, I truly know how painful it is, wacky humour is a coping mechanism).

Well, an effective tactic you can use on a moment-to-moment basis involves using what I call doubt-busting self-talk:

CLICK HERE FOR YOUR SELF DOUBT BUSTING CHEATSHEET SO YOU CAN RESCUE YOUR CONFIDENCE IN SECONDS

But another tactic is to get down into the foundation of your confidence building method itself.

You heard me.

Whether we’re aware of it or not, we all have some kind of method of building our confidence. You just may never have looked at it in that way. When you do, it can be very revealing.

With the seven questions below we are looking into three areas of your method:

  • what rules have been set (unconsciously) around earning the right to be confident
  • how you’ve learned to trust yourself (or not) so far
  • what a new relationship of trust with yourself and/or the universe looks like

These seven questions will help you deconstruct aspects of your confidence building method. Questioning your method will help you redefine what it looks like going forward and point out areas you may need to do some inner work.

7 Questions to ask yourself:

About your hidden rules:

  • Do I believe that confidence is a fixed ability that only some people are born with? Or can it be cultivated over time by anyone? (If you believe it’s fixed, you will want to reconsider that it can be learned)
  • Is confidence the total absence of fear? What is my expectation of how a confident person should feel?
  • What have I been looking for to prove to myself I am capable? Is this realistic or even necessary in order to believe in myself?

How you’ve learned to trust:

  • What are five things I’ve completed in my life where I started as a beginner and ended up mastering eventually?
  • What are five things I’ve proudly accomplished that I never once compared to anyone else?
  • Have I ever been aware of the exact moment when I went from untrusting to trusting myself in something? What was present in that occurrence?

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  • How can I practice feeling a sense of trust in the unknown?
  • Even though I don’t firmly trust my abilities and that everything will work out, what can I choose to trust anyway?
  • What resources can I explore to help me build out my feelings of belief and trust (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, with others)?

These questions take a little time to be with and answer. Like I said, it’s a deep dive. But it’s well worth the effort to tease apart your method in order to conquer any self-doubt that grew these last 4 months and make sure it doesn’t come back. Working hard without seeing the expected results can feel very deflating. But hang in there, dear changemaker. You won’t always be looking side-ways at the others. With your confidence elevated back to full health, you’ll only have eyes for your own goals, on your own track, and your own success will be sweetly arriving soon.

Did you grab that doubt busting cheatsheet I mentioned? Grab it now, it’s free.

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How To Finish What You Start

By Lindsay Hindle | Focus , Mind , Performance , Persistence , Practical Tool

Tired of letting distraction ruin your focus?

I think we can all agree rabbit holes are a major hazard for highly sensitive creative types. Ever find yourself cleaning your gemstones instead of working on a really important priority? I joke (and stereotype) but distraction is actually a HUGE barrier between you and the heart-led impact you want to make.

That’s why I’m about to share my secret of how I overcame my “squirrel!” like nature. I want you to have the upper hand against distraction so the world can enjoy your brilliant contributions.

What’s the focus secret?

It’s all about the micro-moment. The first few seconds when you’re about to get pulled in a “priority-opposite” direction are critical.  The secret of how to avoid the shiny object is with a focus-saving protocol. A what? Yup. You heard me. Think about it… first responders have lots of protocols they follow to quickly get from A to Z in an emergency. They don’t hum and haw or faff around, they have a procedural approach to manage the mayhem.

The tricky part is to become aware of the EXACT MOMENT you’re about to be distracted and follow the procedure below.

Finish What You Start Protocol

  1. PAUSE – ask what am I doing?
  2. ASK – is this the most important thing right now?
  3. ASK- what’s the most important thing right now?
  4. DISCERN – is the idea I am following something I can do later after I complete my priority?
  5. ALIGN – what does my gut say?
  6. HONOR – write down the thought on a list or idea in my idea binder so I can happily return to it later
  7. BREATH. SMILE. BEGIN TASK I NEED TO COMPLETE.

That’s it! It looks almost stupidly simple (does this really work?) The progress is in the practice. First responders drill their protocols over and over, so same same for you my squirrely friend!

This is the VITAL brain training to overcome your cycle of distraction that’s holding you back.

Speaking of being stuck in a cycle, your procrastinator type could be the culprit!

My advice above is really solid, but it may not work as well if you don’t know the root of why you distract, avoid & procrastinate. You need to know what’s driving you to distraction. So if you’re serious about taking your career, business or divine creation to the next level, get the right support by understanding your procrastinator archetype.

Give me just three minutes and I’ll tell you your procrastinator archetype and send you a customized toolkit that gets to the root of the problem. Click here to take the quiz now!

 

What most people get wrong about the power of manifestation

By Lindsay Hindle | Courage , Emotion , Mind , Persistence , Resilliency

What most people get wrong about the power of manifestation

It’s safe to say I didn’t roll out of bed one day with all my ‘awesome’ intact and create this container + community with the overnight precision of Extreme Home Makeover. I say that right out front because it seems so many (SO MANY) come to the experience of building their dream or accomplishing the next thing with some pretty conflicting rules about “HOW” it’s “SUPPOSED” to be done.

Here’s the thing: there is a time and place for life to resemble climbing a ladder or step-by-step forward action and there’s also a time and place for life, your experiences, your ideas to resemble a jigsaw puzzle, a winding road, or a stumble-tumble-free-for-all.

I’ve spent a fair amount of time affirming to people lately that they have permission for their dream to take ‘longer than they think it should’ or that they can even change their minds several times about what it looks like. And it’s why I’m starting to have beef with the way ‘manifestation’ is taught.

By now we’ve moved beyond the idea that simply thinking about what you want to achieve and attract to your life is not enough. That the intention must be followed up with concrete action. But what if concrete action doesn’t always look like linear, step-by-step’ action? Does it mean that anything other than pursuing that one intention is a side-track or deviation that harms your ability to achieve something great?

I don’t believe so.

Don’t get me wrong. I really appreciate all the work being done to help people work with Law of Attraction and I use many of the principles myself. But sometimes we may not be aware of the expectations and rules we’re creating around how long something should take to manifest or how rigid we are in what we are willing to experiment with because it doesn’t ‘line up’ with exactly what we envision.

Let me ask…have you ever felt you were doing manifestation wrong? Have you ever felt anxiety over making a decision to do something or experience something because it didn’t align with your one intention well enough (even though a little voice said “do it!”)?

It’s a sign that maybe you need to add a little more permission into your life to go along with your laser focus. To me life is all about dynamic balance. I don’t hope to achieve any permanent state of balance, for example “I will always be confident and never let fear interfere with my action.”  Guess what? Fear is a part of life and I can’t always be confident right away in doing something new (but that is another blog post!). Instead, the closest point and what serves the best is to find your willingness to dance around the middle a bit. This is where creativity thrives – in the tension between two ends.

If you find yourself consistently and detrimentally on the end of too much flexibility, unfocused and undefined vision then it’s time to move towards the other end, towards having some purpose and practical action using the tools of manifestation. But if you find yourself handcuffed to a rigid picture of what your vision is SUPPOSED to look like and HOW its SUPPOSED to happen in such a way that your missing out on the beauty of allowing things to unfold in an agile way (taking in information/experiences as they arise), then you would benefit from moving away from being so controlled and so rigid towards and allow some more flexibility.

Where do you find yourself landing these days? Do you need more focus. precision, and strategic action to make your vision a reality or do you need to back off the tight control and allow life to serve you wisdom through the freedom of allowing yourself to be? Let me know in the comments.