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Why You’re At War With Expectations, Part 1

By Lindsay Hindle | Emotion , Focus , Mind , Performance , Perspective Shift

If you’re going to lead your business, career, family, art, health revolution, etc. pretty much anything that means anything to you…

You might find yourself struggling with setting and meeting expectations of yourself and others. 

There are three major things you need to grasp in order to be at peace with expectations:

1. Self understanding of your personality  
2. Setting realistic expectations 
3. Applying the right Self love (I identify 2 types) to the right situation when you see yourself “failing” to meet expectations 

Today I’m sharing a powerful tool you can use to help identify your personality so you get the critical insight to stop blaming, shaming, or any other ‘aming’ that’s going on and start to leverage who you are.

It’s from a personality framework called The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin.

A simple question “How do you respond to expectations” led Gretchen into a path of research, ultimately producing an excellent assessment and book called The Four Tendencies. Very quickly they are:

1. Upholders respond readily to both outer and inner expectations
2. Questioners readily respond to inner expectations only
3. Obligers respond readily to outer expectations (and struggle to meet inner ones)
4. Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike

Using this test with clients has been extremely helpful for me to get an understanding of how best to work with them – you can access the test here and find out which tendency you are!

Knowing your tendency is helpful as you may already be reflecting on how you met your goals this year with the golden question:

Did I accomplish or move the needle on what I most wanted, in a way that felt good? Why or why not?

Once you take the test, I would absolutely love it if you go reply inside The Bravery Lab and let me know which tendency you are and what your thoughts/feelings are about it.
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How to define a successful life for yourself

By Lindsay Hindle | Emotion

Would you rather be happy now or later?

If you’re like me, as a kid you were led to believe that “success” was having lots of money, a big (detached) house, a smokin’ hot car, and being married with 2.5 kids (who the heck has half a kid?). For some people, this is true. But success is different for everyone.

For years I’ve followed other peoples interpretations of success and have now developed my own system for success that’s unique to me. For me, being successful is about being aligned with who I am. I make choices based on the now, and not necessarily with the influence or pressures of the future or what society (or others) think I need to lead a successful life.

I don’t want to achieve a successful life, I want to live it.

I don’t completely discount the future implications of my decisions and I’m not totally reckless either. I’ve just come to the realization that success isn’t always something just out of our grasp. It’s something that you can experience today – now – at this exact second in your life if you just open yourself to being happy now.

How to define your NOW success vision

I’m not going to leave you hanging! Here are three simple questions to ask yourself today to define your version of success in the now:

1. When do you feel so much joy that the thought of comparing that experience to someone else’s never even enters your mind?

2. If you died tomorrow, what three feelings would you have wanted to experience the most in your life?

3. When you look at your life, does it give you peace or does your body tighten or react uncomfortably?

Did you notice a common theme? Yes, let’s get a little touchy feely now and talk briefly about emotions and feelings.

I’ve found that when my clients focus on the feelings associated with success they find more success in the now. When their success goals are more focused on physical achievements or status, they spend most of their time reaching, when they could be enjoying and experiencing the journey.

You have so much power to be successful and satisfied in life right now. You don’t need to be a millionaire with a mansion and a handful of kids to be happy. Focus on doing what makes you feel good and that’s the key to a successful life.

If you’d like to chat more about creating a successful life plan that’s unique to you, book a 60 minute Rapid Clarity Breakthrough Session with me, Lindsay!

7 Signs You’re an Entrepreneur Addicted To Overwhelm

By Lindsay Hindle | Mind

Do you love hats? Bowler hats? Sunhats? Baseball caps? As an entrepreneur, no matter what your niche, you need to love hats because you’ll be wearing MANY of them (figuratively speaking most of the time, unless you’re a hat salesman).

As the “Wearer of Many Hats,” you may wonder if that automatically means stress, overwhelm, and eventually burnout. You may believe these are necessary evils to get the job done and be successful. After a while, overworking yourself may become habit. You can easily, and without recognizing it, become addicted to overwhelm.

How can you recognize this addiction? Here are 7 signs you’re addicted to overwhelm:

1. Are you always moving? We all know the importance of downtime, but when you actually get a few minutes of peace and quiet, are you focusing on yourself or thinking of work? Does downtime make you feel guilty about not working?

2. Are you a Yes-Person? Do you say yes to every new invitation or opportunity, whether you have time for it or not because you fear disappointing others?

3. Are you a Firefighter? Is your task list so long that you are only motivated to do the “full state of emergency” tasks and not the routine items, or anything from your wish list?

4. Do you relish “concerned-for-you” attention? Do you only feel successful when you get validations and affirmations from others who are concerned that you “work too hard”?

5. Are you using busyness as a crutch? Even though you dislike being busy, is busyness the only thing that helps you feel alive and ‘going somewhere’ in life?

6. Does saying NO give you severe FOMO? Are you able to say no without anxiety or does the Fear Of Missing Out drive most of your decisions?

7. Are you living in perpetual startup mode? Are you barely implementing ideas/strategies you JUST learned before you are already on to the next one, hoping THIS ONE will be the successful one?

If you answered YES to four or more of these questions, you are addicted to overwhelm. And it’s time to re-evaluate the beliefs, habits and choices that are driving your actions.

Many people go into self employment as a ‘healthier’ alternative to the grinding corporate environment. Unfortunately, their unhealthy habits often go with them turning their passion ‘escape’ into another prison of overwhelm.

When these habits go unrecognized for too long, at best you’ll live a life of continual stress and your business will go ‘ho-hum’. At worst you will cause serious harm to your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and relationship health and tank your business.

If you just had a wake up call, it’s time surround yourself with people who can support you in making healthier choices.

Here are two ways I can help you:

1.Access my free training that will walk you through 4 critical shifts every entrepreneur needs to make for better focus, confidence, and consistency so they can conquer their goals in business and life (without setting their hair on fire). Learn more here.

2. Get my help directly through a Rapid Clarity Breakthrough Session and over 60 minutes we will sort out the chaos, get you clear on what you really want, and create an action plan to get it (again, without setting your hair on fire). Learn more here.